Hi, I’m Alexandra Winteraven (they/them)
I work by tracking patterns as they live in the body and in relationship.
Over time, survival strategies, attachment dynamics, and unprocessed experience organize themselves into recognizable shapes. They show up in how someone breathes, speaks, hesitates, reaches, withdraws, or holds tension. They shape timing, boundaries, desire, and the ability to stay present under pressure.
My work brings sustained attention to these patterns as they are happening, not as concepts to analyze, but as living processes that can be met, felt, and reorganized through relationship.
I am trained as a licensed psychotherapist with over a decade of experience working with trauma and attachment. While this work is not therapy, that training informs how I track nervous system responses, relational dynamics, and the pacing required for real change to take hold.
What makes this work distinct is the combination of somatic attunement, pattern recognition, and relational continuity. We are not only tracking sensation. We are tracking what organizes sensation. We are not only naming patterns. We are staying with them long enough for something new to form.
my approach
You can expect:
Illumination
This work brings careful attention to what has been lived but not fully seen. Together, we track experiences, sensations, and patterns that have been protected or pushed to the edges of awareness. Through sustained presence and relational contact, these parts are met without force and given space to become intelligible.
Illumination here is not revelation. It is the slow process of understanding what has been shaping you from beneath the surface.
Working at Thresholds
I work with people in moments of transition, when familiar structures begin to loosen and something new is asking to take shape. These in-between spaces often carry uncertainty, grief, and disorientation.
Through relational steadiness and careful pacing, we stay with what is ending and attend to what is emerging, without rushing the process or trying to control its outcome.
Relational Repair
This work is rooted in relationship. Many patterns form in relationship, and they shift in relationship.
Together, we track how you orient to contact, intimacy, distance, and trust. Over time, this allows new ways of being with yourself and others to develop through lived experience rather than instruction.
Embodied Agency
Your body carries information about timing, boundaries, desire, and truth. In this work, we learn to listen to those signals and understand how they have been shaped by past experience and external expectations.
Rather than overriding the body, we work with it. This supports clearer choice, greater self-trust, and a more coherent relationship with yourself.
Working with the Field
I pay attention not only to what is happening internally, but also to what emerges between us in real time. This includes relational dynamics, emotional shifts, and subtle changes in energy and attention.
At times, symbolic frameworks such as astrology or tarot may be used as orienting tools, always in service of what is present and alive rather than as explanations or prescriptions.
Pillars of Practice
This work is guided by a small set of principles that shape how we meet, how the work unfolds, and what is asked of both of us.
Fidelity
I work in service of what is real, even when it is inconvenient, destabilizing, or costly. Fidelity means staying loyal to lived truth rather than comforting narratives or premature meaning-making.
Cost
Every transformation has a cost. This work does not promise ease, resolution, or redemption. We pay attention to what is being asked, what must be surrendered, and what cannot be carried forward.
Contact
Change happens through sustained, honest contact. This includes contact with the body, with experience, and within relationship. Rhythm and continuity matter here. This is why the work unfolds over time.
Consent
Nothing is forced. We move at the pace your system can actually metabolize. Consent is ongoing, somatic, and relational. It guides timing, depth, and direction.
Withdrawal
Sometimes the most honest movement is stepping back. Withdrawal is not collapse or avoidance. It is the act of reclaiming attention, energy, and orientation when something requires self-erasure to continue.
Curious to know more about my background and how I came to this work?
why i do this work
I do this work because I have seen what happens when people are given time, relational steadiness, and permission to tell the truth their bodies already carry.
Much of what brings people to this work is not confusion about who they are, but exhaustion from holding patterns that once kept them safe and now cost too much. I am interested in what becomes possible when those patterns are met with attention rather than force.
My commitment is to stay with what is real, even when it is uncomfortable, slow, or inconvenient. That includes grief, ambivalence, desire, and the moments when identity, relationship, or direction begin to reorganize.
This work asks for fidelity. It asks for contact. It asks for consent and an honest reckoning with cost. I am willing to meet those conditions in my own life, and that is what allows me to hold them with others.
I do not work from a place of mastery or resolution. I work from lived engagement with the same processes I support in others, continuing to notice where I must let go, withdraw, or listen more carefully.
If you are looking for a space where truth is allowed to move at its own pace, and where change is approached with seriousness and care, this work may be a fit.